The Right Woman Acrostic

Rev. Thomas Tyree, Jr., Pastor, Grace Bible Church of Costa Mesa, California

Copyright 1995-2014 Rev. Thomas Tyree, Jr., All Rights Reserved


An acrostic is a poem or series of lines in which certain letters, usually the first in each line, form a name, motto, or message when read in sequence. An acrostic gives the reader two for one and the etymology of the word emphasizes one of these two. Our word goes back to the Greek word akrostikhis, "acrostic," which is a combination of Greek akron, "head," and stikhos, "row, line of verse." Literally, akrostikhis means "the line at the head," emphasizing the fact that an acrostic has in addition to horizontal rows a vertical row formed of the letters at the "head" or start of each line. In ancient manuscripts in which a line of verse did not necessarily correspond to a line of text, an acrostic would have looked particularly striking with each of its lines standing by itself and beginning with a capital letter.

Proverbs 31:10-31 presents an acrostic when viewed in the original Hebrew. We will use this fact to present the doctrine of the Virtuous Wife & Mother.

Prosperity and Happiness Are Based on Virtue

The first Hebrew letter of Proverbs 31:10 is ALEPH and represents an ox which represented prosperity in an agricultural economy in Old Testament times. It also illustrates the principle that the height of human prosperity and happiness is the right man with virtue and his right woman brought together by God. The term "an excellent wife" in Proverbs 31:10 means a wife of strength, ability, integrity, or valor. Here, it is a technical word for capacity or virtue and represents the right woman.

An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. (Proverbs 31:10)

Proverbs 31:10 says she is worth far more than jewels and is referring to a pearl, not gems mined from the ground. Pearls come from oysters and are manufactured out from a grain of sand irritating the oyster. As a defense mechanism, the oyster covers the sand and creates a beautiful pearl. This is symbolic of the man’s right woman waiting for him. She is the pearl immersed in the water of Bible doctrine! Looking for Bible doctrine in her soul is the best way to find her! The singular Hebrew word for pearl is PENINAH. Here, the word is the plural form PENINIM. There are a lot of right women. However, there is only one for each man. The pearl is about the only precious gem not related to the ground. lt is related to the water, oysters, and sand. A genuine pearl has perfect symmetry. The right woman has symmetry of soul, body, and most importantly, symmetry of compatibility. You want to watch out at times because your right woman will even know what you are thinking from time to time.

The right woman is a woman of capacity for her right man. Everything about her is designed for him by God the Father. Jesus Christ designed each man personally with this in mind. Everyone else is excluded. Whosoever discovers a right woman receives what is good and obtains an object of delight from the Lord according to Proverbs 18:22.

He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the LORD. (Proverbs 18:22)

The phrase "who finds" in Proverbs 18:22 means who can discover. The woman of capacity is the right woman designed and destined for every man. How does the man know his right woman? Size, shape, coloring, bone structure are not mentioned here because they come in all sizes, shapes, and descriptions. Even the same woman is entirely different from time to time. The right woman will have certain things for her right man that she does not have for anyone else! The woman is brought to the man by God. The man must identify the woman and take the initiative. Some guys are still waiting around to be introduced. The man makes the identification first and if it is true and not phony, she will begin to make some identifications as they get to know each other.

Ecclesiastes 7:26-29 is a passage of bitterness because Solomon didn't discover his right woman. He had "discovered" a lot of wrong women and had become bitter. He had discovered everything, but his right woman. Prosperity for the human race is a right man identifying his right woman. That is the ultimate in human happiness. Some of you think prosperity is having money, traveling, a nice home, clothes, and partying. It is your right woman that counts!

And I discovered more bitter than death the woman whose heart is snares and nets, whose hands are chains. One who is pleasing to God will escape from her, but the sinner will be captured by her. "Behold, I have discovered this," says the Preacher, "adding one thing to another to find an explanation, which I am still seeking but have not found. I have found one man among a thousand, but I have not found a woman among all these. "Behold, I have found only this, that God made men upright, but they have sought out many devices." (Ecclesiastes 7:26-29)

Home Is Where Your Right Woman Lives

The first letter of the original Hebrew of Proverbs 31:11 is BETH and represents a house or dwelling and illustrates the principle that the right woman becomes home to the right man. Home is where your right woman lives - your wife.

The heart of her husband trusts in her, And he will have no lack of gain. (Proverbs 31:11)

The phrase "The heart of her husband" in Proverbs 31:11 refers to his right lobe of the soul or heart (LEBH in the Hebrew). This includes the frame of reference, memory center, conscience, vocabulary storage, categories, norms and standards and viewpoint. When he finds his right woman, all these facets of the heart have an application. She also has a right lobe or heart. Long before there is any touching, there is a mutual frame of reference and mutual conscience. There is a soul climax or soul burning (not libido).

The right lobe of her soul sees her right man as lord. Only a right woman can call her right man lord! No woman ever finds her right man until her soul and her body looks at one man and calls him lord! This was the case for Bathsheba in 1 Kings 1:17 and 1 Kings 1:31 as well as for Sarah in 1 Peter 3:5-8.

And she said to him, "My lord, you swore to your maidservant by the LORD your God, saying, 'Surely your son Solomon shall be king after me and he shall sit on my throne.' (1 Kings 1:17)

Then Bathsheba bowed with her face to the ground, and prostrated herself before the king and said, "May my lord King David live forever." (1 Kings 1:31)

For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands. Thus Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear. You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman; and grant her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. To sum up, let all be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit; (1 Peter 3:5-8)

The right man has full confidence in his right woman when he is away. He has full trust in her that she will not flirt, tease, drink with some other guy, become involved with another guy in some way, or be unfaithful sexually, socially, or mentally. This is the kind of woman every military man must have! When he is out fighting wars and doing his job, he has perfect confidence that his wife thousands of miles away is totally faithful to him in every way. Probably more than any other profession, the military needs the right woman in the marriage.

A man can’t have "love security of the soul" with any woman, but his right woman. The wrong woman will probably be socially unfaithful in some way at some time because a wrong woman is only an ego booster for the man. The wrong woman obviously is going to go for someone else. She may be fun and she may make you think you are the greatest thing in the world, but listen, she can make a hundred guys think the same thing! That’s sharing your woman and there is no place for it in God’s plan either mentally or overtly! A characteristic of having the right woman is celebrating your anniversary no matter if it’s your 10th, your 25th, or your 50th!

Once a woman finds her right man, she is just not interested in any one else! The result is that she does not flirt with other men, she does not want to be a tease, and most importantly, she is not going to smile at you and think about some other guy. When other men ask her to go out, she makes it perfectly clear to them that she has no interest in them and that they are out of line for asking. If some friends ask here to go to a party when her husband is away to cheer her up, she sells them that she doesn't need cheering up.

A Man’s Right Woman Is His Pleasure in Life

The first Hebrew letter of Proverbs 31:12 is GIMEL and represents a camel which refers to a traveler who has gained much knowledge about different subjects. The camel was a blessing in ancient times because it brought the merchandise and goods that pleased people. The principle illustrated here is that a man’s right woman is his pleasure in life.

She does him good and not evil All the days of her life. (Proverbs 31:12)

The phrase "She does him good" in Proverbs 31:12 refers to the right woman who does not make life miserable for her right man. The Hebrew word for good is TOBH. This is the same word as in Genesis 2:18. She shows him a lot of good and causes him a lot of good. This is the way a right woman is to function.

Then the Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him." (Genesis 2:18)

The phrase "and not evil" in Proverbs 31:12 refers to the fact that a right woman brings pleasure and happiness into the life of her right man - not trouble or difficulty. A right woman is no trouble at all! The phrase "all the days of her life" in Proverbs 31:12 refers to the fact that she lives one day at a time. Every day is a lifetime when you have your right woman. This phrase is intensive in the Hebrew and emphasizes that every day she does him good and not evil.

The Right Woman Makes Many Decisions to Please Her Right Man

The first Hebrew letter of Proverbs 31:13 is DALETH and represents a door and refers to decisions. The right woman makes many decisions to please her right man. It’s not necessarily things she wants to do, but things that please her right man! Some of you ladies may not think of yourselves as good housekeepers. How you keep your house is not even an issue in this verse. In fact, this passage indicates that some men have right women who are business women.

She looks for wool and flax, And works with her hands in delight. (Proverbs 31:13)

Some men have a right woman that is a good housekeeper and others have a right woman who is in the working world. This passage is not a treatise on good housekeeping because that is a matter of talent, energy, and ability. Any unsaved woman under such conditions can keep a beautiful home. Some of you single women may think that you will never find your right man because you can't cook or keep house. That doesn't make any difference to your right man!

The phrase "she looks" in Proverbs 31:13 is the qal perfect of the Hebrew word DARASH which means she searches diligently for wool and flax. This means that she dresses to please her right man. Wool and flax were materials used for the manufacturing of clothing in the ancient world. The woman made her own clothes or bought them off of a caravan. Wool clothing was used for colder weather and flax clothing for warmer weather.

The principle illustrated here is the right woman dresses to please her right man and no one else. She cleans her house for the same reason. The right woman does not dress to impress other women or other men! The right woman's soul is so occupied with her right man that she is motivated to always appear in clothing that he appreciates. There is something wrong with a woman who dresses to impress other women or other men such as celebrities or relative strangers.

The right woman only dresses and undresses for the right man! She is always searching diligently for the things that will please her right man. Some men complain that their wives spend so much time shopping. Don't knock it if she’s doing it to please you! If she goes to the dress shop to look nice for you, you have got to have rocks in your head to knock it! And you ladies, if you are taking care of everybody else's needs and you are neglecting your husband and your house, you should reset your priorities back to your right man and place others’ needs down on the list.

For the single man, if you are dating a girl who dresses to impress women or other people who she may or may not have met or dresses in her finest to go to a party where you are not present - you are probably not dating your right woman. This is a good test! If, when you are gone, the woman you are dating goes to a party and dresses up in her finest which you have never even seen yet, she is probably not your right woman. She is interested more in others than you.

The principle here is that she is making decisions where you are not even in the picture. If you are not in her soul, you don't have anything. A right woman should do things the way she thinks her right man wants them to be so when he gets home, he is pleased with what he sees. The right woman should clean the house the way she thinks her right man would want it. She should dress the way she thinks her right man would want her to dress. She should cook meals exactly the way she knows her right man likes them. She should also manage the household affairs the way her right man has indicated they should be managed.

The phrase "works with her hands in delight" in Proverbs 31:13 means she literally works with her hands and has her right man in mind. The drudgery is gone because of what she is thinking. I understand that housework such as making beds, cleaning rugs and carpets, and cooking meals is often drudgery. However, the right women does these things willingly because her right man in her soul!

The Right Woman Makes an Extra Effort to Please Her Right Man

The first Hebrew letter of Proverbs 31:14 is HE and represents a window. It represents the right woman’s perspective. There are at least three types of right women categorized for some right man in this passage. The first category is the domestic woman. The second category is the business woman. The third category is the woman who supports a handicapped man, or an evangelist or pastor-teacher in training who is unable to work while devoting all of his time to the intense training for the ministry.

She is like merchant ships; She brings her food from afar. (Proverbs 31:14)

Proverbs 31:14 illustrates the principle that the right woman has become like the merchant's ships of the ancient world in that she makes the extra effort to get foods that are pleasing to her right man. The right woman doesn't spend all of her time at the quick local grocery stores that offer a poor selection. She is so occupied with her right man that she makes an extra effort to please him.

In the ancient world, ships would sail out from the Mediterranean Sea through the Strait of Gibraltar and trade up and down the west coast of Africa. They were very adventuresome. Solomon sent out merchant ships that came back with apes and peacocks. So, like the merchant ships, she is adventuresome for her right man. Just as a merchant ship goes great distances to find interesting things, so the right woman goes to extra effort to bring something to her right man that is pleasing to him. She looks out of the window of life and does everything with him in perspective. The literal translation of Proverbs 31:14 is, "She has become like the ships of the merchant man, from afar she causes her food to be brought." The analogy is that she places her primary interest in her husband. It could be associated with many different things.

The Right Woman’s Mental Attitude Is the Key to the Household

The first Hebrew letter of Proverbs 31:15 is WAW and represents a nail, peg or hook. The principle here is that the right woman is the peg upon which the household hangs. Her mental attitude is the key to the household. The household includes the right man, right woman, children, maids, and everything else. The right man, as this passage teaches, can be out of sorts and things still move along. The children can be out of sorts and things still go on. When the right woman is out of sorts, it’s the end of the line and nothing goes right. A man may take undeserved criticism and be under pressures in the working world, but to come home to a woman who has not handled her responsibilities to manage the household will really make work intolerable for him.

She rises also while it is still night, And gives food to her household, And portions to her maidens. (Proverbs 31:15)

Proverbs 31:15 indicates that the right woman is the key to the household. He may be the king in the house, but it is the queen who is important. The phrase "She rises" is the qal imperfect of the Hebrew word KOOM and means to rise up for a purpose. Some people get up in the morning without a purpose. They just wander through the day trying to find themselves. Life has no meaning for them and they have no capacity for life.

The phrase "while it is still night" indicates an excellent mental attitude. You have to have it when it’s dark. She is motivated with occupation with her right man. She places her love for him above her personal comfort. It is not necessarily still comfortable for her to get up while it is still dark, but her right man’s happiness is more important to her than her own comfort. This is a phenomenal mental attitude! Women are not constructed usually to get up very early - especially before everyone else. When you find a man who is more important to you than your own comfort, you know you have found your right man!

The phrase "gives food to her household" means that she sees to it that all of the household is fed on time and that the "launching pad" of energy for her husband is ready when expected to get him going in the morning for work. She also sees that everything is in order for their children because they are a reminder of something she shares with him.

The phrase "and portions to her maidens" means that she has assigned jobs to those hired to help her in managing the household. The principle here is that she is the key to the running of the house. She may do it herself, or she may have help. The woman is head of her household. She gives food and tells her maids what to do.

The Business Woman

The first Hebrew letter of Proverbs 31:16 is ZAYIN and represents a sword or weapon. It represents the right woman who is aggressive in her responsiveness. This is the business type of woman. The phrase "She considers" means to consider a business proposition. This is a woman in business who is using good business thinking. The principle here is that all right women are NOT household types. That goes way back to the ancient world. Woman were in business then and women are in business today. Some right women are in the office while others are in the home. They do not follow a pattern.

She considers a field and buys it; From her earnings she plants a vineyard. (Proverbs 31:16)

Proverbs 31:16 literally says, "She puts together a business deal and ... seizes a field."

She sees possibilities of the land and she jumps in there and gets it before anyone else. She outdid her male competitors. She had a good business mind and she pounced on it. She got it right now while everybody else was still consulting with their board of directors. Proverbs 31:16 goes on to say that with her capital, she plants a vineyard. This right woman pleases her right man with business deals, just like another right woman pleases her husband in the home.

The Right Man Is an Enclosure for His Right Woman

The first Hebrew letter of Proverbs 31:17 is HETH and represents an enclosure or a fenced-in area. The principle here is that the right woman is always enclosed by her right man. She is inside of the fence. No matter whether she is a domestic manager or whether she is a business woman, she belongs to one man only! Her soul and her body are at his disposal. What does a woman do when she is fenced in? No two women are the same.

She girds herself with strength, And makes her arms strong. (Proverbs 31:17)

The phrase "She girds herself with strength" means to encircle and has to do with her sexual response to her husband and means literally that she encircles her sexual response with his strength. She is in the pasture or corral of her right man. His strength is her protection. They have a soul relationship in other verses, but this describes the physical relationship. The important point is that she responds to only one man! She is always faithful to him. Sex is designed for right man - right woman only!

The phrase "And makes her arms strong" in Proverbs 31:17 is the piel imperfect of AHMATZ in the Hebrew and means to encourage. She encourages him with her arms as in her embrace. She embraces within the fence of her husband. Remember ladies, category three love is not a touching love. You can have male friends, but no touching! The embrace is only for your right man inside the fence.

The Right Woman Associates with Her Right Man

The first Hebrew letter of Proverbs 31:18 is TETH and represents a relationship or an association and means to roll together. The principle here is that the right woman associates with the right man. The word "senses" means to perceive and the word "gain" means to profit. She perceives that her right man is good for her always. The phrase "is good" comes from the Hebrew word TOBH and means they have a good relationship around the clock.

She senses that her gain is good; Her lamp does not go out at night. (Proverbs 31:18)

The phrase "Her lamp does not go out at night" illustrates that her lamp (prosperity and happiness) shall not go out (qal imperfect of KABAH in the Hebrew) or be extinguished by night which refers to adversity or a disaster period. This is the quintessence of happiness. She is both stimulated and in a state of permanent happiness because of her relationship and association with her right man. This is maximum human happiness.

The Right Woman Is Occupied with Things That Bless Her Right Man

The first Hebrew letter of Proverbs 31:19 is YODH and represents the hand. The principle here is that the hands of the right woman are occupied with those things that bless her right man. She does not give him cause for concern. She does not flirt or tease other men. She does not play games and is not vindictive. The hand of the right woman is constructive, not destructive.

She stretches out her hands to the distaff, And her hands grasp the spindle. (Proverbs 31:19)

The phrase "She stretches out her hands to the distaff" refers to a staff on a turning basin where yarn wraps around it and feeds the sewing machine. The result is woven cloth. The phrase "And her hands grasp the spindle" is used here to mean that she handles the machine with dexterity. The meaning here is that she has skillful hands and fingers. It does not mean that all women have to sew. It means her hands are an extension of her soul. In her soul. she is occupied with one man so she is doing something to please one man.

The Right Woman Is the Overflow of Grace to Others

The first Hebrew letter of Proverbs 31:20 is KAPH and represents the

the hollow of a hand. The principle here is that the right woman is the overflow of grace to others. Because she is so happy with her right man, this happiness overflows to others.

She extends her hand to the poor; And she stretches out her hands to the needy. (Proverbs 31:20)

The phrase "She extends her hand to the poor" uses the Hebrew word PARASH and means to extend out or to spread with her hands. This also means to extend her help to the poor, afflicted, and the needy. She does this for people with genuine needs, not to impress others.

The Right Woman Anticipates Certain Types of Disaster and Heads Them off

The first Hebrew letter of Proverbs 31:21 is LAMEDH and represents an ox goad and represents that she keeps the ox moving in the fields. The principle here is that the right woman's faithfulness to her right man enables her to prepare for pressures and disasters in life.

She is not afraid of the snow for her household, For all her household are clothed with scarlet. (Proverbs 31:21)

The phrase "She is not afraid of the snow for her household" contains the qal imperfect of YARE (the Hebrew word for "afraid") plus the negative LO in the Hebrew. The snow represents the disasters in life that can be anticipated. In this case, everyone who lives in the north knows it is going to snow in winter. They anticipate what will be needed to keep warm because they know it is going to get cold. The right woman anticipates certain types of disaster and heads them off. The wrong woman won’t care.

The phrase "For all her household are clothed with scarlet" contains the qal passive participle of the Hebrew word LABASH and means "are being clothed." The phrase "with scarlet" contains the Hebrew word SHANI which is a dual word and means double red clothing or double scarlet clothing warm and rich in color to keep you warm in extreme cold. This also refers to a woman's love instincts whereby she clothes her right man with a double warmth of her love (soul and sex).

There are certain times of the year when snow and cold can be anticipated, long before the snow arrives. Therefore, long before that, the right woman has made provision for such a disaster. Once a woman finds her right man, there are certain instincts of love which head off many disasters. Her instincts of love keep her concentrating on her right man. She doesn’t flirt, tease, try to hurt others, or play games to make her right man jealous. She no longer depends upon parties, outside friends, or fun and games. She doesn't try to hurt her right man in her social life or activities.

The Well Is the Right Woman

The first Hebrew letter of Proverbs 31:22 is MEM and represents water and is often used to represent Bible doctrine as in Ephesians 5:26. It also means water in a fountain or water in a well and is used for a right man - right woman relationship. The well is the right woman. The fountain is the sex drive of the right man as in Proverbs 5:15-20.

that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, (Ephesians 5:26)

She makes coverings for herself; Her clothing is fine linen and purple. (Proverbs 31:22)

Drink water from your own cistern, And fresh water from your own well. Should your springs be dispersed abroad, Streams of water in the streets? Let them be yours alone, And not for strangers with you. Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice in the wife of your youth. As a loving hind and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; Be exhilarated always with her love. For why should you, my son, be exhilarated with an adulteress, And embrace the bosom of a foreigner? (Proverbs 5:15-20)

The phrase "She makes" in Proverbs 31:22 is the qal perfect of ASAH in the Hebrew. In the ancient world, the woman had to manufacture the accessories for the bed. The phrase "coverings for herself" refers to her clothing which was fine linen and purple. The Hebrew word for clothing is LABASH and is in the qal active participle. It means she is being clothed constantly. Silk is very fine white linen and purple signifies wearing beautiful clothing for her right man, even expensive.

This is just the opposite of many females today. The woman should make the bed as beautiful as possible and in the house makes herself as beautiful as possible. The woman who dresses her bed and her body to please her right man is fantastic. Many wives hang around the house looking like a zombie. The only time they will dress up is when they go out. If you look terrible at the start of the day when your husband is around, great through the part when he is gone and then back in the grubbies when he is home, that is abnormal! This is all backwards!

Ladies are not to dress up to impress a bunch of other women! Would you rather receive compliments from your husband or from some female "acquaintance?" This also applied to you single ladies. Some of you have little personal discipline. Some day the right man is going to come into your life and he’s going to say, "shape up, baby" and you are going to have to shape up in a hurry.

The right woman should make herself physically attractive to her right man through proper dress, but more importantly she should make herself spiritually attractive to her right man through Bible doctrine.

The word "couch" in Song of Songs 1:16 refers to the bed and the fact that the bed is to be the most attractive piece of furniture in the whole house. If the house has orange crates for furniture, then the bed ought to be an army cot. It ought to be better than anything else. She reflects her mental attitude in the way she decorates the bedroom. Remember, your bedroom is to be a private room between you and your husband. People generally do not see it. Lots of you spend all your money on your living room. That's where you see all your friends and that’s your showplace. You dress up your living room and your bedroom looks terrible!

"How handsome you are, my beloved, And so pleasant! Indeed, our couch is luxuriant! (Song of Songs 1:16)

The Right Man Can Concentrate on His Job Without Distraction

The first Hebrew letter of Proverbs 31:23 is NUN and represents a fish standing up on his tail and represents concentration. The husband of the right woman can concentrate on his job without distraction. He can concentrate on his job if he doesn't have a nag at home, or a problem at home, or an alcoholic at home stumbling over the furniture. The principle is that the wrong woman is a constant source of distraction and irritation, while the right woman makes it possible for her right man to leave the house and concentrate on his profession, on his job, whatever he has to do in life.

Her husband is known in the gates, When he sits among the elders of the land. (Proverbs 31:23)

The phrase "Her husband" in Proverbs 31:23 uses the Hebrew word BAOL which means her lord and master. Things really settle down and get sorted out when a woman can look at her husband and address him as "My Lord."

The phrase "is known in the gates" contains the niphil participle of YADA in the Hebrew. In this case, the man is an administrator of city government. This refers to the meeting of the city council. It means literally that he is her lord when he sits among the rulers of the land. This is a place of prominence and authority. The principle here is that the right woman compliments and implements, but never competes with her right man. She is his glory. She stimulates him and seduces him, but does not belittle or criticize him.

The Right Woman Supports Her Right Man

The first Hebrew letter of Proverbs 31:24 is SAMEKH and represents a prop, fulcrum, or support. The principle here is that the right woman supports her right man with fanatical loyalty and love. The woman in this verse supported her husband and earned the living as the husband was handicapped. This is the third category of right woman previously discussed.

She makes linen garments and sells them, And supplies belts to the tradesmen. (Proverbs 31:24)

She does not take away from his masculinity. She does not compete with him, does not put him down, and does not ridicule him. The Hebrew word for "makes" is the qal imperfect of ASAH and means she manufactures it. The Hebrew word for "linen" is SADIDH and means undergarments. The Hebrew word for "sells" is the qal imperfect of MAKER. The Hebrew word for "supplies" is NATHAN and means she sells on consignment undergarments she has made to the Phoenicians or Canaanites. They then travel throughout the ancient world and sell them. The fact that her husband is not earning the wages is a matter of privacy and never hinders the relationship. You should thank the Lord that you are not in this situation.

The Right Woman Is the Glory of Her Right Man

The first Hebrew letter of Proverbs 31:25 is AYIN and represents a fountain and an eye. Here, it refers to the fountain as the male sex drive as in Proverbs 5:15 and Proverbs 5:18. This refers again to the fact that the right woman is the glory of her right man and she wears his glory in her soul. This file emphasizes the glory of the woman's soul which includes a woman having a sense of humor.

Strength and dignity are her clothing, And she smiles at the future. (Proverbs 31:25)


Drink water from your own cistern, And fresh water from your own well. (Proverbs 5:15)

Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice in the wife of your youth. (Proverbs 5:18)

The Hebrew word for "strength" in Proverbs 31:25 is OZ and means a fortification, stability or glory, and majesty or splendor. Here, it denotes soul stability, soul majesty, soul glory, and soul splendor from her relationship with her right man. The whole point is the inner beauty of soul based on Bible doctrine. The Hebrew word for "dignity" in Proverbs 31:25 is CHADAR which means glamour or ornamental glamour. The Hebrew word for "smiles" is the qal imperfect of SACHAQ which means she will laugh at the next day. It means a very deep seated laughter based on a relaxed mental attitude, humor, and her soul’s inner beauty. She keeps on laughing because of the double portion of grace given to her from God. She has received grace from learning Bible doctrine and by having her right man.

Why is she laughing? She laughs because her right man is with her, they have a perfect relationship of soul and of body, and her soul is prepared for the next day. The laughter here refers to the total satisfaction of a right-man right-woman relationship which means soul and body. At this point, in the presence of her right man, she is not clothed with anything else. Her body and soul are naked to him and she receives maximum satisfaction so she is fulfilled and can laugh at the next day.

In this context, there are three categories of women. There is the housewife who laughs at the fact that she will be around the house working the next day. There is the business woman who laughs at the fact that she will be around the office the next day. She has the right man at the end of the day! The guy at the office mumbles around, smokes cigars, but he doesn't bother her. There is the bread-winning woman who laughs because she is going to have a tough day tomorrow because she has to reach a certain quota for the Phoenician traders. Instead of dreading, instead of becoming weary about tomorrow, she laughs! This is cognitive self-confidence regarding the future.

The Right Woman with Doctrine Speaks Wisdom

The first Hebrew letter of Proverbs 31:26 is PE and represents the mouth. This deals with verbal conversation with the right woman. She talks to her right man. When she opens her mouth, her soul is turned inside out. Wisdom comes out when she talks.

She opens her mouth in wisdom, And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. (Proverbs 31:26)

The Hebrew word for "opens" in Proverbs 31:26 is PATHACH and means to connect the thoughts of the soul with verbal or audible communication. The literal translation of this phrase is, "Her mouth she opens with doctrine." The Hebrew word for "wisdom" is KHAKMAH and means Bible doctrine in the human spirit cycled into the right lobe of the soul. This is the same as the word for knowledge in the New Testament which is epignosis which means the full knowledge of Bible doctrine in the soul and is used in Colossians 1:10. Even though she is a responder, Bible doctrine protects her and she is not impressed with impressionable things such as celebrities or history. To her, Bible doctrine is fantastic.

That ye might walk worthy of the Lord unto all pleasing, being fruitful in every good work, and increasing in the knowledge of God; (Colossians 1:10)

The phrase "the teaching of kindness is on her tongue " in Proverbs 31:26 uses the Hebrew word TORAH for "teaching" which means the law of doctrine communicated. The Hebrew word for "kindness" is CHESEDH which means literally, "on her tongue, the law of grace." The law of grace keeps her from maligning, gossiping, or being vindictive.

You can always tell a woman who has her right man. She doesn't malign others, or undermine them, or express mental attitude sins about others, or judge them. She has plenty of bona fide things to occupy her time. The worst troublemakers in any local church are the frustrated females who spend their time tearing down others.

The Right Woman Knows the Needs, Joys, and Difficulties of Her Household

The first Hebrew letter of Proverbs 31:27 is TSADHE and represents a reaping hook. This is the principle of the harvest of the right woman’s soul. The phrase "She looks well to the ways of her household" contains the qal active participle of the Hebrew word TSAPHAH and means to alert or to keep watch. She is alert to the needs, the joys, and the difficulties of her household. The phrase "And does not eat the bread of idleness" means her soul is not fat, slow, and repulsive. She is animated because of her love and esteem for her right man.

She looks well to the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness. (Proverbs 31:27)

The Influence of the Mother Gives the Son an Appreciation for Womanhood

The first Hebrew letter of Proverbs 31:28 is QOPH and represents the back of the head or the subconscious and refers to flash backs or retrospection. The children may not be happy at the time, but they remember her.

Her children rise up and bless her; Her husband also, and he praises her, saying: (Proverbs 31:28)

The phrase "Her children rise up" in Proverbs 31:28 means when they grow up, their mature evaluation is that their mother is great! That is why you have to leave your mother when you mature. The man always leaves his mother and should never go back home to live. If a marriage doesn't work out, the daughter may go back to her mother, but NEVER the son! Never! It is the influence of the mother that gives him an appreciation for womanhood.

The phrase "and bless her" is the piel imperfect of the Hebrew word ASHEN and means to be happy or to make happy. The literal translation is, "Her sons grow up and recall her with happiness." Here, the mother teaches her son and the same is true for the father teaching his daughter. The son will appreciate his mother and the daughters their father because he protects the daughter.

The Hebrew word for "husband" is BAAL which means her lord. The phrase "he praises her" is the piel imperfect of HALLEL and means that because a father loves to have a great son, when he has this type of son, he turns around and praises the mother intensively.

The Right Man Recognizes His Right Woman as Unique and Exceptional

The first Hebrew letter of Proverbs 31:29 is RESH and refers to the head or the frontal lobe. Up to this point, we have been dealing with sons growing up. Now, we come to daughters growing up. The phrase "Many daughters have done nobly" in Proverbs 31:29 means that many daughters have accomplished or done (ASAH in the Hebrew) virtuously (CHAYLL in the Hebrew). The word CHAYLL means strength in a man, but it means ability, talent, integrity, virtue, and good character in a woman. There are many virtuous women, thank God, but there is only one right woman for every man.

"Many daughters have done nobly, But you excel them all." (Proverbs 31:29)

The phrase "But you excel them all" is the qal perfect of ALAH for excel and means to surpass. This means that in a world of many fantastic women of ability, beauty, character, spirituality, and maturity, a man should feel that his wife and only his wife surpasses all others. The man may admire other women, recognize them as beautiful, talented, or full of integrity, or the opposite. However, in the midst of all such women, there is to be only one for him. This is his right woman.

The Man Recognizes His Right Woman by Her Soul Beauty

The first Hebrew letter of Proverbs 31:30 is SHIN means a tooth from the lower jaw and refers to eating. This verse shows the result of a right woman taking in Bible doctrine every day. The result is occupation with Christ or maximum category one love toward Jesus Christ.

Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised. (Proverbs 31:30)

The Hebrew word for "charm" in Proverbs 31:30 is KANE and means elegant or glamorous beauty. Some women are very beautiful, but many of you men don’t identify your right woman on the basis of her elegant beauty. The phrase "charm is deceitful" means it can be a lie. Let’s say you come to church and you try to find the most beautiful woman there. Once you lay eyes on her, you say to yourself that she is your right woman. Beware of this approach! Wait until she talks. This verse is saying that everything that is beautiful is not fun.

Some of you guys are looking for a Christian Miss America and unfortunately, most are already taken as right women for other men. This passage is difficult. There are some very glamorous women in the world and they have a right man, but you are not to identify your right woman on this basis! If she is married, she is not for you, so hands off!

The phrase "beauty is vain" contains the Hebrew word HEBEL which means useless or empty. A man may be attracted to the glamorous and attractive beauty, but this is not the basis for recognition of the right woman. This disregards the soul climax. Recognition signals are not related to the body, but to the soul. In 1 Corinthians 7:9, the burning comes before the body. If it was the other way around, the honeymoon would come before the marriage and that isn’t the way it is!

But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. (1 Corinthians 7:9)

Many women may be beautiful, but don't identify your right woman on that basis. For a man to identify his right woman, he must see something in her soul. Courtship is to involve talking and thereby seeking to discover the content in her soul. There is to be no touching either in the living room, the restaurant, or especially the car. What are you ever going to discover in a woman’s soul if you are grabbing the body? There will be plenty of time for that when you meet your right woman and AFTER you get married.

Solomon fell into this trap. He was a body scanner. All he did was chase beautiful women. He collected 1,000 of them, but not one of them could he pour into his mold. Why? The woman is a gift to the man! When Solomon met the Shulamite woman, she was totally occupied with her right man’s soul - her shepard lover. Solomon in all his glory couldn’t even get close to her. The shepherd lover was in her soul while Solomon was trying to get to her body.

This does not imply that your right woman will not have a beautiful body. A beautiful body is not God's way of identifying the right one. When it comes to identification of your right woman, it is in her soul. One day you will discover the most beautiful body in the world because it was made just for you. You women are suckers to let every good looking guy you like touch you and check you out. When the right man comes along, he may want to reach over the table and touch you or reach under the table and touch you, but somewhere you have got to talk! Identification takes time and conversation. So control your hands when you go on that date.

You all want to touch too soon! You recognize her soul first, then you are to spend the rest of your life having glorious experiences. Any body experience you have before that will be very detrimental. Remember this principle and you’ll have a very happy life: keep your hands off women.

The occupational hazard of being a beautiful woman is pride, indolence, lust, bad temper and becoming spoiled. It takes a lot more virtue in a man to recognize a glamorous, beautiful woman as his right woman if she is arrogant and spoiled. Women who have been told by everyone how beautiful they are can become filled with approbation lust and believe too much in their beauty as being the most important thing in life. When you ladies look at yourselves in the mirror and admire yourselves, you are emphasizing the wrong thing! You are asking for trouble because you are emphasizing the wrong things! You need a beautiful soul first! Some beautiful women never have their right man identify them because they are stuck on themselves and their beautiful body.

The phrase "But a woman who fears the Lord" in Proverbs 31:30 has no verb - only a noun. This sentence form in the Hebrew is stronger than a verb and it means the woman occupied with the Lord shall be praised. The phrase "She shall be praised" is a strong passive and means literally that glamour is a lie, beauty is empty and useless. It also means that the woman occupied with the Lord shall receive praise from her right man. If she has her soul full of Bible doctrine, the woman will be identified and she shall be praised, not touched, but praised! This is the soul climax.

The Right Woman Desires Her Right Man’s Touch

The first Hebrew letter of Proverbs 31:31 is TAW and refers to a sign or signature. This is the woman in private with her right man. The phrase "Give her the product of her hands" in Proverbs 31:31 is the woman in touching.

Give her the product of her hands, And let her works praise her in the gates. (Proverbs 31:31)

The word "give" in the Hebrew is NATHAN and literally means for the right man to give unto his right woman, a loving touch which is the tactical response to her right man’s touch. This touching from her right man is in response to her loving touch. A woman who has her right man will want to get her hands on him. If you women never want to touch your man, he is not your right man! A woman who responds becomes aggressive with her hands and her lips. The man has initiated so she wants to touch him all over. This is her man!

This is dedicated to the Christian "fundy" women who have been taught wrongly by some dear old "fundy" Christian pastor that your wifely duty is to live out your life never enjoying the loving touch that is so precious in the right man-right woman marriage. It is a soul response that drives the physical response! The soul rapport is what you should seek with all of your soul. This is why the spiritual life in marriage is such a wonderful thing - if it is based on the virtue love of both.

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